Higher Ground

Hate is an odd word.  You can “hate” broccoli.  Or you can “hate” your haircut.  We use the word all the time and never think about it.  But when hate evolves into action, it is an entirely different thing.

I was thinking about all the hate that has come out toward Kristen and Rob.  Hate that as far as I can see, has never truly been based on any provable facts or rational reasons, but based merely on people’s perceptions of what they have read or have heard.  The truly sad part of it is that much of the hate began early on–fed by the unreasonable fantasies of one faction or the other.  But once last summer occurred, the madness developed into complete mania. I once encountered someone on Twitter who was vehemently arguing about the guilt of Kristen based on what she had seen in the tabloids.  I began by asking her if she considered herself a reasonable person.  When she said she did, I invited her to Justice for Kristen.  I challenged her to read through all the evidence–not just a part of it, but all of it–evidence based on provable facts.  At the end of that time, if she still felt that Kristen was guilty then, there was nothing more I could say.  The evidence, when viewed with an open mind, is irrefutable.  (She changed her mind, by the way, and has become a supporter of Kristen.)  Why, then, have so many continued to hold to the belief that there was an affair and a subsequent apology?  And, why after a year, have they continued to harbor that hate to the point of taking action?

I did some research the other day.  I went to three different articles on Gossip Cop.

  • One was about Anthony Weiner’s indiscretions.  Talk about provable evidence!  If you are so inclined, you can actually view the pictures that he sent to a woman of his penis.  This AFTER leaving office in disgrace because of the same kind of behavior and the public humiliation he had already put his wife through.
  • The second was of Simon Cowell’s revelation that he had fathered a child.  Now fathering a child  is not really a big deal, but it seems the mother was the wife of his best friend.  AND the couple was still married at the time of the affair.
  • The third was the story of Kristen Stewart being trapped in an alley by a paparazzi and the fact that she called him a f*ck face and didn’t deserve to breathe the same air as she did.

Anthony WeinerKristen in alley

Simon Cowell

Now, of the three…consider which is the biggest offense?  The man that exposed himself and now the pictures of his penis can be found on the internet  (leaving his wife and his small baby to face the humiliation of his actions); the man who fathered a child out of wedlock with the wife of his best friend—WHILE the wife and his friend were still married; or the 23 year old girl, cornered in an alley who chose to use the “f” word toward the man that was blocking her exit and was obviously (even in the edited versions) making her uncomfortable.

My findings were actually quite shocking.  I went on to the website on July 31st.  The Anthony Weiner article had been posted on July 25 and had 87 comments.  The Simon Cowell article had been posted on the 31st and had 23 comments, and the Kristen Stewart article had been posted on July 30th and had 3856 comments.  In ONE day! 3856 COMMENTS.  WTF?

What is it with people?  Now, I didn’t go through all the comments.  I’m sure that many, many of them were in support of Kristen.  But, what is really going on here?  I just don’t understand?

There are still people out there that take the time to go to these sites and not only will they read the article, but they will then proceed to make ugly comments about a young woman who has done NOTHING to them personally.  They continue to bring up last year’s scandal despite the fact that it really has no basis in fact and they malign her with accusations of breaking up a marriage and where two children were involved.

Now, let’s say that the whole thing was true—which it is not—but let’s go on that premise.  The only evidence people offer are the pictures and the fact that Liberty and Rupert subsequently divorced.  Then they point to an apology that no one ever saw Kristen or Rupert give.  The people who believe this base their “facts” on what they saw in tabloids.  If you were to use actual provable facts….Rupert and Liberty were headed toward a divorce to start with.  They had already filed a couple of times, and that occurred BEFORE Kristen was involved in their lives.  Their marriage was failing.  There are documents to prove it.  If their divorce had been finalized a month before, then the haters would COMPLETELY lose that as a selling point for their hatred.  If you were to assume (that makes an ass out of you AND me, but let’s do it anyway) that the pictures were actually taken by a hidden photographer, what do they really prove?  Who was the aggressor?  Was there actually a picture of Kristen doing anything other than talking to Rupert or being pinned by Rupert to the fence or the car door?  No.  She definitely was not the aggressor.  And about that apology….did anyone see Kristen write it, read it, give it to someone to give to someone to give to a tab?  How about the one from Rupert?  No?  Really?  Then what do they base their hatred of Kristen on?  And WHY in the name of God, are they STILL harping on it?

The papz and tabs are easy.  Money.  Plain and simple.  They made money on all three of those articles.  But, they made MEGA BUCKS off of the article on Kristen.  Gossip Cop has paid advertisers on it.  That means that every time someone clicks on to Gossip Cop, the advertiser pays Gossip Cop a certain amount.  Now, let’s assume that they get paid $1 per click–that will make the math easy (but it probably is more).  If you just went on the number of comments, then they would have made $3856 off that one article in one day.  Think about it, how many times have you gone to a site, read an article, and NOT left a comment?  Based on that, you can figure that they received a lot more clicks than comments—so suffice to say they made a pretty penny off of that one article.

Let me clue you in on something.  Every time you come to a site, they count it.  Every time you click on a page they count it.  The difference is, some have advertisers and some don’t.  Gossip Cop has advertisers and they get paid plenty.  If JFK had paid advertisers and I got $1 for every click on this site, I would have made OVER $400,000 in the past year! And JFK is a tiny, tiny little site—that more are learning of, but, in the scope of things—we’re a nobody!  Now, JFK gets nothing.  Everything done on this site is donated and done with love and a sense of justice for one unfairly accused.  Believe me when I say Gossip Cop is making a LOT of money and they are just one of the tabs out there.

So, the papz and tabs are easy to explain.  They are in it for the money.  If they quit making money on Kristen and Rob stories, they would move on to the next hot couple.  But, let me assure you that as long as people go to those sites—they will keep writing the articles and paying the paparazzi to take the pictures.

The fans are something different though.  I’m trying to figure that whole thing out.  Hatred is an ugly thing.  It manifests itself in anger.  But, in most cases, it is inwardly destructive.  It doesn’t normally affect the person being hated and it rarely affects the people on the periphery.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.~~Buddah

In this particular case, however, that hatred, that anger is affecting many people.  It affects the people around Kristen—even the ones that are merely in the wrong place at the wrong time—like the lady that helped Kristen to her car in the most recent incident.  It affects her friends.  How could it not?  They have to face the same paparazzi she does when they all go out together.  They have to endure the ugly comments thrown at their friend.  On Twitter and Instagram, they are often targets of the haters and some have had to close their accounts because of it.

It seems the haters have an unending list of reasons that they haul out to support their hate of Kristen and Rob.  If it isn’t Kristen’s “scandal”, then it is that she is ugly or that she can’t act.  For Rob, they suggest that he is unfaithful to Kristen or some other ridiculous idea.  When it comes to either of their acting abilities, I have come to one very sad conclusion.  Some people are too simple minded to look beyond the end of their nose and explore other performances or possibilities.  It’s so much easier to say “Kristen is a terrible actress” or “Rob is a horrible actor”.  Both Kristen and Rob are young and I am sure that they would be the first to say they are more proud of some of their performances than others.  They are both growing in their already substantial careers and they improve with everything they do!  But people base their opinion on viewing one performance and assume that all the rest of their performances are exactly the same.   I believe that anyone who bases ANY decision on just one “fact” is at the very least short sighted and is actually keeping themselves from enjoying some wonderful experiences.

In the case of the haters that have developed in this fandom, hatred has evolved in to jealousy and that jealousy has evolved into something much more dangerous—something that is truly frightening.  It is evolving into prejudice.

Prejudice is defined as : an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics

And even more frightening, that prejudice is beginning to produce bigots.

A bigot is defined as: a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance

The intolerance that is developing in all areas of our society is a concern.  Now, I suspect if you were able to question any of the people who have been involved with the hate campaign against Kristen or Rob, they would never consider themselves as prejudiced or as bigots.  But, based on the definitions, they are behaving as if they are.  In our little microcosm it is the intolerance and prejudice of the haters that is causing them to behave as bigots and as bullies.  They hack into accounts and send viruses to people that disagree with them.  They brag about the fact that they have multiple accounts and that nothing can be done to stop them.  They belittle and harass people from behind the cover of their computers and the anonymity that it provides.  Unfortunately, people like these are either: too insecure, too immature or too irrational to understand that what they do is not funny.  They fail to understand that their antics have consequences and that one day, they will be forced to experience the results of their actions.  Some people call it Karma.  Some people just believe you should treat others the way you want to be treated.  But, however you define it, a reckoning will come.

As I was looking for the definition of bigotry, I came upon this comment and I thought it was so eloquently stated and went along quite nicely in respect to Kristen and Rob.

Prejudice based on a perceived impression fueled by insecurity or a false sense of superiority, which is not supported by hard facts – that to my mind is a bigot. The traditional definition as “hatred, contempt, or intolerance on the basis of a person’s ethnicity, religion, national origin etc.” may exclude many who express disapproval and dislike based on some unfounded “fear”, wounding innocents in the process. Not everyone can be “liked” but surely no-one deserves to be disliked without justification.~~ Priya Ramanujam · PSGR Krishnammal College for Women, Coimbatore

I would like to leave you with a song that a friend of mine has graciously allowed me to share with you.  It is called “Higher Ground”.  He refers to hate as “a hole where they bury your soul”.  He also states that we “all have shovels, but no one has a ladder.”  How do we get out of this hole that so many are intent upon digging?  That is the question.  I don’t believe that feeding into the anger and hate is helpful.   Being ugly back just escalates the problem.   It starts with agreeing to disagree.  That shouldn’t be so hard.  Then it moves on to following the old adage of “to each his own.”  Of course, that means that all parties have to be willing to cooperate.  If they don’t, then when all else fails, block and ignore.  Just like any bully, they will eventually get tired of not getting a response and will move on.  We need to get out of the hole and stop being so ugly to each other.  We need to get to “higher ground”.

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The Anti-Paparazzi Fight for Fairness

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Thanks to Misty for telling me about this video!  As always, she has done an incredible job!!!!

Are You a Hummingbird?

Posted by @MistyMueller, July 10,2013

Yesterday, I saw so many people asking how the paparazzi get away with the things they do. Why don’t they change the laws? Why can’t anyone stop this bullying? Then last night, a friend stopped by and asked if I was still involved with “that paparazzi stuff”. When I said yes, she said “Well, you’re not gonna be able to do anything about it. It’s hopeless” shaking her head. Then I remembered a story that @RKsoulmates913 tweeted yesterday. In this story, there was a raging forest fire, and all the animals stood on the other side of a creek, away from the fire, with devastated looks on their faces. Then a hummingbird swooped down to the creek, filled its tiny mouth with water, flew over the fire and dropped the water on it. When the hummingbird flew back to the creek for another mouthful, a lion asked him “What do you think YOU can do with just that?” The hummingbird replied “I can try.”
At The Plan, we hear we won’t be able to change anything all the time. Every day I hear something like that “You’ll not change anything.” The Plan started out so small, but is growing every day. More and more people are not buying the tabloids, not clicking on tabloid sites, and not looking at paparazzi pictures. And the tabloids are starting to notice. Why do you think they send their minions out to twitter to troll our accounts? Because they like us? No. Because they see we’re growing, people are starting to realize they’ve been lied to all these years. And they’re afraid. Because of The Plan, Paparazzi Reform Initiative, and other groups like us are starting to make a difference. We’re not just that single hummingbird with a beak of water any more. We’re starting to be ALL the animals in the forest helping to put out the fire.
But we can’t stop trying; we have a long, long way to go. If each of you out there just tells a friend, or a neighbor about what the paparazzi and tabloids get away with, it might make that neighbor stop before she puts that ragazine in her grocery cart. If you just retweet some of these articles, and NOT retweet tabloid articles, you stop that tabloid from getting the money from that click or retweet. If you wait for fan sites to post paparazzi pix instead of going to the paparazzi site and click, you give that paparazzi site less money. If your favorite actor isn’t on a red carpet, or on any talk shows, look at the old videos on YouTube, or watch one of their movies. Please don’t look at the paparazzi pictures. The paparazzi make those actors we love lives miserable. Imagine not being able to walk to the store for a candy bar without 47 camera flashes going off in your face, or someone following you everywhere you go. You probably wouldn’t like it. There are so many ways to make a difference, and they’re all so easy.
I’ve seen and heard the argument “Well, they might know what’s really going on”. No. They don’t. Those “sources”? The sources whose name is not shown? That could be anyone – someone on twitter, the paper boy’s step-father, the person they sat next to in third grade. If someone said it, no matter how far removed from the celebrity, tabloids can and do use them as a “source”. If you use Twitter, and read tabloids, you may have seen someone’s @ name. That’s the only time they’ll use a named “source”. And who really knows who that is? It could be a writer for that tabloid! They need a story that day, and can’t come up with any “sources”? Hell yes, they would do that. They’re ruthless, they have absolutely no morals, and go so far against journalism ethics I sent them all copies of it the other day. Here’s the link for the journalism code of ethics if any of you would like to tweet it to any tabloid or paparazzi site spj.org/ethicscode.asp
Something else we can do is help the Paparazzi Reform Initiative. They’ve sponsored two bills that are coming up in the California legislature. I won’t go into them in detail here, but one is for celebrity children, making it illegal to publicize any child’s image without their parents permission. How many videos have you watched when you can hear “Stop taking my picture”! That child didn’t ask to be a celebrity, a public figure. That’s their parents’ job, not theirs. The other bill is to beef up the existing stalker laws already in place. This one is a civil matter, making it possible for a celebrity to obtain a restraining order against a paparazzo that follows them constantly. This bill could also help domestic violence victims. They’re going to need us to write or fax some letters to some Cali politicians as it gets closer to the voting date. It may be a little time consuming, but wouldn’t it be worth it to not hear “Stop taking my picture!”? Or having your favorite actor walk outside in the morning for the newspaper and see 7 or 8 paparazzi in front of his house clicking away with their cameras?
There is also a petition from Paparazzi Reform to People magazine, demanding they stop using celebrity children’s pictures. Please sign it, because when it’s time for the Cali legislature to vote on these anti-paparazzi bills, a petition with thousands of signatures might be the deciding factor on whether to vote for or against these laws. There’s only a little over 500 signatures now. It’s simple, and takes very little time. Please sign it. Here’s the link http://www.change.org/petitions/the-publisher-of-people-magazine-to-agree-to-only-publish-photos-of-children-attained-with-guardian-consent-2 . PRI’s FB page link https://www.facebook.com/PAPARAZZIReform?fref=ts and their main website link http://www.paparazzi-reform.org/ . The new anti-pap bills are on the first page if you’d like to know more about the bills. There is a lot of information on this website. Educate yourselves about the paparazzi. What you read won’t be pleasant, but it needs to be read so you can understand what exactly these animals are capable of.
So instead of bitching about needing change, and why do they look so angry in all the pictures (wouldn’t you if you were stalked 24/7?), do something. What’s it take to click on Retweet? A quarter second? Sign PRI’s petition. That only takes about 3 minutes. What’s 3 minutes if it helps to change the paparazzi laws? Read some of the articles I’ve read about tabloids and what they’re capable of. Hopefully you’ll get as angry as I did and start helping out.
Once again, thanks for reading. And please, help. It doesn’t take much time, and doesn’t cost a dime. But it can make a difference in the quality of life for a celebrity child, or for your favorite actor. Are you going to be a hummingbird and at least try to stop this? Or are you just going to sit there and watch your actors burn? As always, peace out. Misty

Seeing the Light…

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. ~~Plato

It’s coming, you know…  More and more people are beginning to see the light.  They are seeing that the tabs print lies and use only selected pictures to prove them.  But, the intelligent ones are beginning to see through their plan.  Some will say that the camera never lies.  Perhaps that is true.  But, the ones in control of the images most certainly can and do.  Tabs publish only the pictures that will tell the story they want the public to believe.  Meanwhile, there may be hundreds of pictures that tell a completely different story—but THEY are not seen.  Papz take photos and manipulate them to change the meaning.  They alter dates and the order of sequence–some go so far as photo shopping details in or out.  People are beginning to understand the message that tabs are not a source for truth.  They are beginning to understand that they are “played” daily and so are choosing not to be part of the game.

Yes.  There are those who choose not to see the truth.  They look with eyes tainted by narrow minds and the belief that if they shout long and hard enough they can change what the intelligent already know.  They harass and attack those who have seen or are beginning to see the truth and attempt to bully them into believing in THEIR truth.  Unfortunately, their truth isn’t based in fact.  The same people who do the harassing will soon be shown to be the people who have been mistaken.  They will be forced to admit that their version of the truth cannot be made true simply because they want it to be so.  There are those who have worked hard to attempt to intimidate the people that have had the intelligence to ask questions and look for answers.

I used to tell my students, “Being loudest, doesn’t make you right—it only makes you the loudest.”  That could also be said to the people on Twitter and the different gossip sites who choose to be bullies (with a slight change).  “Being meanest, doesn’t make you right—it only makes you the meanest.”  People don’t like bullies and they don’t like liars.  Because of that, people are gradually looking for sites that don’t allow that behavior.  I am proud to say that this is such a site.

Thank you so much for coming, learning, discussing and understanding that things are not always as they seem in the world of tabs.  Thanks to those of you that have seen the light.  Pass the message along to all you know.

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.~~Buddha

Standing in the line at the store…

This was originally posted as a Twitlonger.  If you would share it, and I hope that you will, go here:  http://www.twitlonger.com/show/kunvc3

I realize that when you are standing in line at a store and the tabs are screaming their headlines at you, they are difficult to ignore.  What you need to remember is that 95% of what is in them is nothing but BS.  When they have no real news (which they have not had in quite a while) they make up stories to get your attention!  Made up stories are fiction.  They are lies!  You can’t believe ANYTHING you see in a tabloid magazine or on a tabloid site.  Gossip sites are exactly that!  Gossip!  That is probably the only truth on their site!   They have NO sources.  They have NO reliable information!  Anytime you see a story and then you see that other sites or magazines are carrying the same story, remember…they are basically owned by the same people.  They simply copy stories and recycle them.  There are no original stories out there.  Sometimes they are so lazy, the only thing they change is the title. Why would you spend your hard-earned money on something that you inherently know to be untrue?  When you do, do you know who you are actually hurting?  The very people you want to read about!   So, if you are in line and have nothing else to do, browse their stupid magazines.  And then put them back on the shelf!  For heaven sakes, DON’T buy them!  When you buy them, you are empowering them to continue to tell lies;  to pay papz to invade the privacy of celebrities; and you are making money for them (the tabs)!  The same thing is true when you go to their sites.  They make money every time someone visits their site.  DON’T GO!  You are wasting your time.  Basically everything there is a lie!  The ONLY thing you can believe is when you see it via video and the information is coming out of the celebrity’s mouth.  STRAIGHT from the source!  And even then, it may not be the truth (for instance, Rob likes to tell them stories just to see if he can get them to print it!—very funny Rob!  J).  Do you think anyone else does that?  I don’t know.  But, I sure wouldn’t be surprised!

Join “The Plan”!  We are fighting for truth in journalism!  We want the papz to be brought under control!  If you have a celebrity that you love and support—how can you NOT be for #theplan?  #the plan is bigger than Kristen, it is bigger than Rob, it is bigger than any of your petty feelings about who you do or don’t support or whether or not you agree with theories!  It is about both of them AND it is for all the other celebrities that are out there being lied about and being followed by those scumbag paparazzi!  If you don’t want to get involved, the person who you are hurting is the celebrity that you most admire—no matter who they are, because they are ALL plagued by the same vermin.

Think about it!  Join #theplan .  You can get info from www.justiceforkristen.wordpress.com  By the way, I’m sorry.  My blog was started before #theplan .  If you refuse to get involved because of the name of the site where it is located, then YOU are the one that is being petty and ridiculous.  Don’t think about the messenger, think about what the message is and what we can do if we ban together!

Join now!